DEAR ABBY: I want recommendation concerning my husband’s buddy and the way I ought to deal with a fragile scenario. My husband has a lady buddy. (She has a boyfriend). They not too long ago helped us transfer, which we actually recognize. She likes to make sexual jokes, and my husband does, too. I’m not a prude, however I don’t benefit from the type of flirty vibe she places out.
When they have been serving to us transfer, we went out for meals. She and I had privately shared that my husband and her boyfriend would generally neglect to zip up after utilizing the toilet. Well, whereas we have been strolling to the automobile, she zipped up my husband’s zipper for him! I laughed it off, nevertheless it type of caught me off guard. Later, my husband instructed me he thought it was bizarre, and so do I.
Should I inform her it was crossing a line? She appears fairly clueless, however I don’t need it to occur once more. — AWKWARD IN THE WEST
DEAR AWKWARD: Your husband’s buddy seems to have a troublesome time understanding boundaries. Because it made your husband uncomfortable, he ought to inform her that what she did was bizarre and, if he forgets to zip up sooner or later, she ought to inform him his zipper is open so he can repair it himself.
DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago began a relationship with “Chase,” a person I’ve recognized for a yr. We don’t have time to see one another throughout the week. I’ve two jobs; he has one. He works Monday by Saturday. He’s additionally in a sports activities league that will get collectively for apply and video games on Sundays.
The drawback is, each weekend for the previous six weeks he’s mentioned he’d attempt to come see me, however by the tip of the weekend, one thing all the time occurred, so he didn’t. To be brutally sincere, I’ve seen “associates with advantages” guys each week for years extra usually than I’ve seen Chase.
I don’t like having to attend this lengthy to see him, so I not too long ago instructed going again to being simply associates. What’s the purpose in being in a relationship with somebody I not often see? I don’t assume I ought to proceed ready. Do you agree? — IMPATIENT IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR IMPATIENT: If Chase was really motivated to see you greater than often, he would make the time. You have my permission to stop ready for him. And, as you progress ahead (and on), assume that you’ve been “simply associates” from the time he stopped displaying up if you have been accessible.
DEAR ABBY: I’m Spanish, and my husband is Indian. I’ve a daughter from a earlier relationship, and I additionally share a child boy with him. Most of the time, he speaks to the newborn in Telegu, which is okay with me.
I might love for my child boy to study the three languages — English, Spanish and Telugu — however each time I communicate with my daughter in Spanish, my husband thinks we’re speaking about him and will get mad, which I believe is unfair, as I can’t prohibit my daughter from talking her language. Could you please give me some recommendation? — TRILINGUAL IN THE EAST
DEAR TRILINGUAL: I’m sorry you didn’t point out how previous your daughter is. She ought to apply her English in addition to her Spanish. Point out that her stepfather feels excluded when she speaks extensively to you in Spanish, which leaves him out of the dialog, and to please be extra delicate to his emotions.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.